M-J's Recommendations, Based on Her Own Experience
The Elegant Lady's Boudoir
by M-J de Mesterton
Posted on March 2, 2015 at 7:50 PM
Developed by renowned plastic surgeon Randal Haworth, MD, FACS, NightLift® is the first and only sleepwear collection specifically designed to protect the breasts and décolletage. During his 20 years of private practice in Beverly Hills, Dr. Haworth found that those breast patients who wore a bra while sleeping had higher, firmer bosoms. NightLift helps to prevent sagging and drooping over time by keeping the breasts perfectly immobile, but always comfortably supported.
In 2004, I photographed myself in an elegant robe made of black velvet with white satin trim. It was the sort of thing in which one would not be embarrassed to be seen on an impromptu basis--answering the door to package deliveries, for example. I miss that old robe, which I wore-out through regular usage, but I still have my silk dressing gown by Sulka as a consolation.
©M-J de Mesterton 2015
M-J's Favourite Night Cream, the Highly-Rated Lumene from Scandinavia
M-J's Inside Advice
A useful, elegant accessory for the vanity:
The Caron Duvet Powder-Puff, a French Classic Made with Swan's Down
I use this comfortable, simple fabric brace to correct and protect my posture as I sit at the computer. I'm wearing it now; the Stability Ace Upper Back Brace even looks sort of cool over a black turtleneck.~~M-J
BE ROUND OR BE SQUARE!
Gone are the sad days when a flat, shrunken,
teardrop behind was de rigueur:
Nylons from National Hosiery, Made in the U.S.A.
Store home-made creams and emollients in antique porcelain jars for an elegant presentation on your vanity.
Storage for Gloves and Scarves: Hatboxes
Drawing from 1800s Yokohama, by C. Wirgman
Elegant Survival Discovery
La Roche-Posay Medical Skin-Care Products, for when your skin needs extra attention:
The Most Highly-Rated Grooming Implements for Our "Nails"
I've used this safe deodorant, which is free-of-aluminum (aluminium) and very effective for up to twelve hours, for seven years with great success--it's the only brand for me; I prefer the lavender-white tea scent, but chamomile and pomegranate are also very pleasant and available at Amazon. Crystal Essence is the natural solution that protects both your skin and clothing.~~M-J
It's been many years since I visited a beauty salon to get my hair done, or for any other purpose. There are several reasons for this, foremost among them is that the hair stylists I had, no matter how much money I paid, paid no attention to what they were doing. They were more interested in operating an inquisition into my private life than in the usual beauty operator's line--cutting my hair in a straight line. Going to Bergdorf Goodman's salon didn't make a whit of difference in the quality of my final result. Hair dressers blow-dry and style cut hair with a curling brush in order to conceal the bad job they've done. Once you wash the hair, the signs of neglect and poor craftsmanship appear.
My husband enjoys cutting my hair. He uses some very good scissors from France. And he doesn't spend his energy asking about my private life--he is my private life! Train your husband, wife, or trusted friend to cut your hair, and return the favor. Remember, the higher the quality of your scissors or shears, the better the haircut.
There are many brands of hair color on the market. Target and Wal-Mart carry L'Oreal lines of hair-dyes, usually for eight dollars a box. They are gentler on hair than the three-dollar brand If your hair has already started to turn gray or, as in my case, white, choose lighter colors. I remember bumping into Tony Bennett back in 1980s Manhattan. He was dying his hair black then to look younger, but the effect was reminiscent of a wax museum replica. Now that he has let his hair go naturally white, he looks so much more healthy and attractive. The same is true for ladies. If you are fortunate enough to go white instead of gray, it gives a platinum blond look. White hair is usually much more delicate than gray, and thus is easier to color. Hair that hasn't yet turned, but is mixed in with white hair, will also dye or lighten more easily. If you have naturally black hair, lightening will be difficult. In your case, blending gray and dark hair with a shade just a bit lighter than your original one will be better than going to the lightest shade, because attempting to bleach black hair usually produces an orange result. What you ought not to do is try to dye your hair as black as it was when you were young. Nothing is more difficult to keep up than dark hair with white or gray roots. Slightly lighter colors of hair dye will blend with the new growth of hair and give you an evenly pigmented coiffure. At about eight dollars a box, it is wise to stock up on your shade, because at times they are sold-out, and you don't want to be caught dead with the wrong color on your head!
Copyright M-J de Mesterton 2008
Phthalates affect hormone function. They are suspected of causing early puberty in girls, and low sperm counts in men. Phthalate exposure may have played a part in a large number of uterine problems in women, and cases of testicular cancer in men. Phthalates may also cause decreased fertility in both sexes. Long-term, repeated exposure to these toxic chemicals may damage the liver and kidneys. Dibutyl phthalate may adversely affect developing fetuses.
Formaldehyde is a known carcinogen that has caused cancer in the nose and throats of laboratory animals.
June, 2009 My husband found this new product for me: Vaseline brand Healthy Hand& Nail Conditioning, in lotion-pump or cream in a tube.
Incredibly, our hands are made up of 5 unique surfaces. But because they are constantly exposed, they are prone to dryness, and require custom care.
Healthy Hand & Nail Lotion is formulated just for your hands. Its conditioning moisturizers are fast absorbing and non-greasy. It nourishes completely for softer palms, fingertips and knuckles, smoother cuticles, and stronger nails.
June, 2009~I am testing this product now, am not affiliated with the company, and will give an objective report on my results in two weeks. My nails break whether or not they are polished. Since I am now keeping them bare, this product may help.
UPDATE This product, if used regularly, works!~~M-J, July 2009
~~Copyright M-J de Mesterton, June 2009
Why wear stockings instead of panti-hose or tights? It is better for your skin in hot and humid climates, and cheaper when one considers the run in one leg of a pair of panti-hose causes the whole unit to be wasted.
by M-J de Mesterton
The Elegant Lady's Boudoir Recommends:
The Stocking Store, at www.stockingstore.com is M-J's long-time source for garters and suspenders, reliable and inexpensive, made in the U.S. and England. UPDATE, JANUARY 2017: be sure to order by actual WAIST-MEASUREMENT, because if you wear a garter-belt anywhere below the waist, your stockings will pull it down to your knees. Here is my illustrative photograph:
Update, July 26th, 2007
Swisspers Suprême Cotton Rounds and Squares are the best quality cosmetic pads. Almost all other cotton pads fall apart when you use them, leaving bits of cotton that get into your eyes, etc. And, don't buy the Swisspers low-end product, because it disintegrates during use, like the others do. Make sure you use Swisspers Suprême.
Swisspers are made by U.S. Cotton in Rio Rancho, NM 87124-4517
I wrote this for Eons in 2006:
Glamour at Home Can Lift Your Spirits
Copyright M-J de Mesterton, 2006
|Posted on July 27, 2012 at 10:25 AM|
Have you ever noticed that the more resentful and jealous a woman is, the more wrinkles she has? The most important age-preventing measure for your face is being a member of the Clear Conscience Club--you know, the one whose members get a good night's sleep. When people carry around the burdens of hatred and envy, resentments and greed, these destructive inner elements inevitably manifest themselves on their faces.
Here is a quote from an interview by Linda Holmes with elegant, ageless singer Darlene Love, whose work in the 1960s with music innovator Phil Spector catapulted her to fame and made her into the exploited victim of a megalomaniac who was ethically-challenged, and for whom loyalty was a foreign concept:
"I have no reason to hate him," she says, "and I never did, because I always found that hate makes you ugly. Makes you have wrinkles. Which I don't have." Here, she laughed. "But you know what? That has a whole lot to do with your insides. When you hate people, it not only makes you hate that person, it gives that vibe off for everything around you. I really do believe that. So I really did try hard not to dislike him and always be the good guy, and say what I say about him and nothing bad. 'Cause it doesn't help."
September 30th, 2009: Facial Yoga Exercises are Better than Botox
The classic hula-hoop is great for maintaining your figure, and can help you lose extra kilos. It's low-tech, lightweight, and easy-to-store.
The old-fashioned jump-rope is inexpensive, compact, and packable for travel; jumping rope is still the most effective cardiovascular exercise. We are jumping rope daily, and playing tennis. Tennis keeps us running round picking up balls, and jumping into the air to return lobs. Jumping rope will make your legs and heart strong!
My husband and I are now using Dr. Brandt's "Pores No More", for special occasions.
To maintain the flower of youth, ladies often use parasols. They are much more reliable than sunscreen creams, and safer for your skin.
Alternatively, a wide-brimmed hat is perfect for guarding against the sun's harmful rays.
Elegant Survival Discovery:
for when your skin needs extra attention. Dr. Zeff's site is the best place to order these skin-care creams. He ships lightning-fast.
Thursday, July 17, 2007
M-J on Maintaining an Elegant Countenance
Skin-Care and Beauty
( IMAGE STOLEN 2017) Vintage Photo Hand-Coloured in Oil Paint, by M-J in 1980
Elegant Exercise: Low-Cost, Low-Tech and Low-Stress
Bounce your way to better health with this ideal mini-trampoline. As long as your feet are in fair condition and you’re able to stand, this mini-trampoline is easy to use, and its cardio-vascular benefits are similar to those acquired by jumping rope. And “rebounding” on a trampoline is easier than jumping rope, because there is nothing on which to trip. It seems like all the rage right now, but those in the know were using mini-trampolines in the 1990s. The svelte and intelligent character Charlotte Cavendish in the series Lovejoy, for example, used to bounce fifty times on her mini-trampoline in the morning,and another fifty in the evening.©M-J de Mesterton
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Peel and slice a potato very thinly, and put the slices in the freezer, in a waxed paper or plastic bag. The potato slices will freeze quickly.
Put the chilled potato slices under eyes while lying down, and remove them when they turn brown. If this doesn't work right away, fetch the other frozen potato slices from the freezer and repeat the process.
Another method is to use chilled cucumber slices. I don't know why it works, but it does.
Botox, an unhealthy poison, is used to freeze people's faces. This insanity has consequences. Article in the Telegraph U.K.
Excerpt from "Mirror, Mirror, the Book by Gayelord Hauser
Give Yourself Seven Minutes A Day
Now here is some more cheerful news about exercise: it does not have to be a long, complicated, strenuous routine. All the women - and men, too - who have told me how the successfully made exercise a part of their lives have confirmed my own experience. A few well-chosen, basic, simple exercises make the best routine. they can be gone through in a few minutes as part of the getting up, bathing and dressing ritual that begins your day.
I have studied countless exercise routines, American, European and Oriental, for every country has its favorites. The best ones have been developed out of natural body movements and do not demand a contortionist's or an acrobat's abilities. Let me give you here my seven basic exercises. You can do them well and thoroughly in no more than seven minutes of your day, and they will keep you trim and fit all your life. Remember, we not only exercise to keep slim; we exercise because it helps us to feel so much better and it keeps our "instrument" in tune:
Now shake yourself all over, take a few breaths, and off to your shower or tub. You have done your muscle work for the day. Any other exercise, sport or physical work you do will be so much gravy. Try and make these easy and lazy twists a daily habit.~~Gayelord Hauser, 1895-1984
Announcing an Elegant Lady's Source of Skin-Care Products: Garnier Nutritioniste~~M-J